Sometimes People Can’t Handle Success

Filed Under (Motivational) by swapquot on 18-11-2009

Satish Nair asked:


Sometimes people can’t handle success – Satish Nair

“I tried 1000 different ways to find a solution, but 1001st was the best solution” – Thomas Alva Edison, when asked about his experience in inventing the light bulb.

The first question is “What is Success?” : The dictionaries provide various definitions of success as ‘an occurrence that accomplishes its intended purpose’ or ‘a state of prosperity or fame’ or ‘a realization that a person is successful’, but success is broader than what we define. Achieving success means you became famous; you can have enough money to buy the luxuries you longed for so many years, you are being a darling of the masses.

Anybody can achieve success, however for that one has to have the self belief within him that he can, this is the primary step towards success. If you do not believe in yourself, then creating that feeling is your first assignment. Secondly, we have to focus on what we are going to do to achieve success, something we already have and something we have to attain from others.

There are many factors that contribute to success or failure, the most important of which is a person’s mindset. One can not create and sustain success, if his thoughts, beliefs and emotions are not adjusted to success. If one believes in oneself, money or what success means for them are in dissimilarity to a successful life, he finds it difficult or impossible to create one.

Some of the key factors for people, who want to be successful are determination, decisiveness, continuous learning, constructive planning, hard-work, relentless practice (regain the mettle even when things are going against his wishes), have to have the ability to recover and learn from failures. One requires a strong vision of his future, his planning; setting achievable goals all can play important roles in becoming successful.

There is no need to worry, If one does not have all the above characteristics, think success is not a heavenly fruit, as if one can only dream of it, everybody can achieve it with various techniques. One can set goals and objectives, which may be inherited qualities, however learning some advanced techniques for success, which can only be learned from schools/people. You have to develop mental strength to succeed, which will enable you to recover from setbacks more easily.

There is another side of this coin that lot many people, famous personalities, they can not handle the success suitably – can say success is an catastrophe for them – a bad experience. How to handle the success depends upon the person as an individual i.e. it is a very individual matter. To somebody success is an unexciting aspect, but to somebody it is an energizing factor to achieve more. We surprise when we hear news about famous people, who suffer from alcoholism, drug abuse and serious emotional problems, we see that success can bring different kinds of discomfort alongwith it. Diego Maradona, Mike Tyson, Princess Diana are perfect examples, facing serious problems when they are famous, as if people think they have everything, but suffered at different levels and they fee they are alone in the midst of fame.

First Example Diego Maradona. He is former caption of Argentine football team. He played in four World Cups, won a world cup in 1986, received FIFA Player of the Century and voted in 2000 by FIFA, the best football player of all time surpassing the great footballer ever PELE.

Since the 1990s, Maradona has been battling cocaine addiction, which included spells in Swiss and Cuban clinics. After retirement, Maradona spent most of his time in Cuba (can say in hospital), and after returning to Argentina suddently he suffered a major heart attack following a cocaine overdose and was admitted to intensive care in a Buenos Aires hospital. After he showed improvement, Maradona was taken off the respirator on April 23 and remained in intensive care for several days before being discharged.

Second example : Diana, Princes of Wales, from the time of her engagement to the Prince of Wales in 1981 until her death after a car accident in 1997, Diana was one of the most famous women in the world, a pre-eminent celebrity of her generation. During her lifetime, she was often described as the world’s most photographed woman. To her admirers, the Princess of Wales was a role model; After her death, there were even calls for her to be nominated for sainthood, while her detractors, consider her to have been suffering from a mental illness; it has been suggested that Diana was, according to one biographer, possibly suffering from Borderline personality disorder. Diana herself admitted to struggling with depression, and the eating disorder bulimia, which recurred throughout her adult life.

Third Example is of Mike Tyson. At the height of his fame and career in the late 1980s and throughout the ’90s, Tyson was one of the most recognized sports personalities in the world. Apart from his many sporting accomplishments, his outrageous and controversial behavior in the ring and in his private life as well as the drug and alcoholic abuses has kept him in the public eye than his career.

Tyson retired from competitive boxing in 2005. He has since engaged in a series of exhibition bouts in a tour across the US to pay his numerous debts. Despite receiving over US$30 million for several of his fights and $300 million over his career, Tyson declared bankrupt in 2003. now, Tyson appears in countless popular media in either cameo appearances or as a subject of parody or satire.

So why these people addicted to drugs, alcohol and suffering from various disorders? And the answer is “Sometimes people can’t handle success” the reasons may be they fear the success and self sabotage their lives, that’s what happened to Maradona, Mike Tyson and Princes Diana, there were throwing the fame away. No one has been able to break through this massive self sabotage. No wonder that people are afraid of success. To achieve success means need of a lot of self-examination along with chances in lifestyle and facelift of our behaviors.

We are NOT just talking about some personalities here; we are talking about every successful people, including you. Success is like a hard rock, not everybody is able to crack or pull it down easily. Chances are that anybody who tasted the success in any field can face such problems at any moment of time; it is not a fault of us, but a phenomenon people around the world face.

Satisfaction is an important ingredient of success. For becoming successful, you have to learn to get satisfied. This often means giving up wanting and longing, two feelings that don’t go with satisfaction.

Let us hope we will not be addicted to the drugs and alcohol like Maradona did, but almost everyone is limiting his lives because part of him is afraid of success. If it applies to us, then we should retrospect that what receding factors and soul searching to know what pulled us back, so that we can rectify the wrongs and find the rights.

Success requires discipline, determination and a strong belief in oneself. It’s a whole lot easier to stay where you are than to move into a new state of being.



Are You Singing Your Song of Success? Five Secrets to Following Your Dreams and Achieving More Success in Your Life

Filed Under (Motivational) by swapquot on 12-11-2009

Ed Sykes asked:


Recently, Susan Boyle, an unemployed forty-seven year old single woman from the small village of Blackburn, Scotland decided to compete in the television program, “Britain’s Got Talent.” She did not look like the typical “star quality” contestant. So, when she first walked out on the stage, the audience and judges started laughing and giving her cynical looks. Then she sang. The audience and judges were instantly won over and she continued to the next round of competition. Because the program was on television and the video of her program appeared on YouTube, she won over millions of additional fans with her unique talent. Whether she wins the competition or not, she already won by living her dream. By taking the bold step of competing, Susan won over millions while creating unlimited opportunities to sing her song of success.

So I ask you the following:

Are You Singing Your Song of Success?

Are you letting your song of success go silent? The following are five secrets that will guarantee that your song of success is heard and you can also live your dreams:

Create Powerful Goals to Be Successful – Take the time to set clear, concise life and success goals that you can be excited about on a daily basis. Refer to your goals every day so that you can stay on course to achieve your dreams. Make your goals S-M-A-R-T-E-R: specific, measureable, attainable, realistic, time-based, encouraging, and rewarded. Develop Your Positive Expectations to Be Successful - Even as the audience was laughing about what to expect, the judge asked her which singer’s level fame she wanted to attain. Susan answered, without hesitation: Elaine Page, one of the most famous English singers of all time. This drew more laughter and skeptical looks. Then she sang and over the skeptical looks changed to awe. In Susan Boyle’s mind, she was as good as the best singer in England. She had already developed her positive expectations to be a great singer and wouldn’t allow anyone to deter her from her goal.

What are your positive expectations for success? If someone were to ask you what career or life goals you want to achieve, would you be able to communicate it without hesitation? Develop your positive expectations so that you can move forward with your goals in the face of opposition. Follow Your Passion to Be Successful - Susan’s passion since she was twelve years old was singing. It was the one thing she loved to do. When she walked out of the stage, you could see the excitement and enthusiasm about at being given the opportunity to do what she loved showed in the way she talked, walked, and finally…sang.

If there Iis there something you are passionate about? Is it a hobby? Is it a business opportunity? Is it a career opportunity? Well Let your passion for whatever you what show. Your passion will knock down barriers and create new opportunities for you. Your passion will keep you going even during the darkest times and evaluate elevate you even more during good times. Say Coleman Cox once said the following: “When enthusiasm is inspired by reason, is practical in application, reflects confidence, and spreads good cheer, raises morale, inspires associates, arouses loyalty, and laughs at adversity, it is beyond price.” Be passionate about whatever the goals you what to achieve. Let your enthusiasm be your weapon against naysayers and cynics in life and you will achieve your goals. Be True to Yourself to Be Successful - When Susan walked out on the stage and conversed with the judges, it was clear that she had a very unique personality. However, in spite of being in a high-pressure situation, in front of thousands of audience members, millions of television watchers, and the judges, she was comfortable in her own skin and true to herself. She wasn’t going to change who she was because of this very important moment in her life. She was even more true to herself under pressure.

How many times have you felt pressure to change who you are to be successful? This may occur at work, in business, or with your family. True success comes from staying who you are while achieving success. How many times have you heard stories about people who “sold their soul” so that they can be successful and later become even bigger failures? Stay true to your values in the face of pressure and you will become successful. Be Persistent to Be Successful - You will meet many roadblocks on your way to achieving your goals and living your dreams. You may never be given the opportunity to succeed, but be persistent. You ideas may be discredited, but be persistent. You may be laughed at for believing in your goals like Susan Boyle, but be persistent.

Realize that many people do not hold the same dreams and goals that you believe in. When you are persistent, you will find the energy to pursue your goals in spite of others who are negative toward your dreams. By being persistent in achieving your goals, you will win over allies who will help you achieve your dreams.

Bonus Tip: Have fun along the way to success.. Susan looked like she was having fun in the moment no matter what happened. Have fun along your journey of success and it will make your trip that much more enjoyable.

Apply the five success secrets at your business, your career, and your life in the face of all obstacles and you can live your dreams. Susan is singing her song of success; why not let your song be heard?



Learn How to Apply a Simple Equation for Success in Your Life

Filed Under (Motivational) by swapquot on 01-10-2009

Susan Burgess asked:


I get sick of hearing the comments; ‘I don’t have enough energy to be successful.’

Or, ‘you are more successful because you have more energy than me.’

How much energy do you need to aim for success?

Energy can be defined as ‘the capacity for vigorous activity; available power; the capacity to do the work.’

Success can be defined as ‘a favorable outcome; the gaining of wealth and fame.’

My definition of success is ‘using your available power to achieve your desired outcome (success).’

If your desired outcome is failure you will need the same energy to be a successful failure, than you will need to be a successful successor!

In mathematical terms,

Success = (energy applied + desired success related outcomes).

Failure = (energy applied + desired failure related outcomes).

Focusing on the negative takes as much energy as focusing on the positive.

Being depressed about your failures takes the same energy as being elated with your successes.

So if the level of energy used to be miserable is the same as what is needed to be successful why is it that some will and some won’t be successful when both expand the same amount of energy?

There are the group who will comment that success is all based on how lucky you are, or that you were in the right place at the right time, or that you shop or business was in the right position for your good fortune to just happen. Well for the majority of successful people, luck has never played a role and the other two suggestions are the result of planning and applying the success equation.

‘The Secret’ movie has created incredible interest worldwide, with inputs in the movie from successful and wealthy people, who all followed the same map. Media commentaries and news headlines have emerged relating to those who have (allegedly) ripped off as many systems as they could to gain success, at the same time reportedly using the concepts portrayed in the movie; to the group who have supposedly followed the flow and dreamed up their success only to still be a failure. Let’s not forget those who continue to whine that they just hate all this fluffy stuff that is going on around them.

‘The Secret’did its job, it created success for the journalistic producer, whether you like it or not and the secret or the science behind ‘the Secret’ has been making people successful for a very long time, also whether you believe it or not, the concepts will continue to lead people to success for a very long time to come.

Why is it, that globally, there are a group of successful people who have previously been ’street people’, drug users, school dropouts and English or Math failures or ex janitors with limited education? What is it that this group of people has, or what is it that they have developed to be so successful and living the life of their desires?

Part of the answer is to get a mentor, no matter what areas you want to add improvement to in your life, common sense, or your inner gut feeling, will tell you this, go and find yourself a mentor or a coach.

But, and there is a big but and this is where the majority come to the brick wall. This is the total crux of the matter and it doesn’t matter how many books, programs, DVD’s, seminars you attend or business ventures you get involved in, until you totally understand and take a grip of what rules you, governs your behavior, what controls your thinking, what controls the system that you have filed deep within your brain cells nothing will change.

You will continue to try to use the equation of success as previously mentioned, but without the real science, success will continue to evade you.

Success is a science, numerous books have been written on how the science works and there are variables (obstacles) that just pop up in people’s lives that need to be negotiated if a success outcome is to be achieved. I always find it so interesting how one can lead their life obstacle free, until the time comes to change their life!

As success requires a little bit more than just your ordinary energy and a strong desire, I developed my equation for success believing that if you live by it each and every day (that is the big ask) you will achieve your goals. By studying the great minds of our past century and those that are successful, no matter what we set out to do requires a blueprint, or a roadmap, but it also requires the ingredient that inspires the momentum – a shift in conscious thinking – a shift in your mindset.

Having worked with children with disabilities, including blind children, (most don’t regard themselves as having disability) I have had the gratification of learning the following amazing success equations;

SELF DETERMINATION = (knowledge – pity) + (skills x confidence) + blind role models

SUCCESS =self-determination + (talent x perseverance)

The equation that leads these children to be successful in life led me to develop my equation, an equation that has led me to my success; my suggestion is to put a blindfold on for at least one full day and you will get the secret ingredient necessary for success, the change in mindset, the most important secret ingredient to your success.

You don’t have to be brilliant at math to master the success equation just apply it;

SUCCESS = (mindset + knowledge) + (action x perseverance) + mentor.



Forefathers Of Wealth Creation: Introducing Wallace Wattles

Filed Under (Motivational) by swapquot on 22-08-2009

Sean Rasmussen asked:


Today there are many financial “gurus” who claim to know it all when it comes to wealth creation. Surely, a number of these experts really do know a lot about investing and creating wealth. But even before the big names in financial wealth creation there came other greats who spoke to the world on a more primary wealth creation level. One of those men was Wallace D. Wattles, author of The Science of Getting Rich. Wattles’ message is one primed to stand the test of time in matters of wealth creation, as it speaks to some of the most essential elements of success in achieving financial wealth.

Who Was Wallace Wattles?

Wallace Wattles started out life poor and continue on that way for much of his life. Why, then, is Wallace Wattles today considered one of the greatest contributors to wealth creation? Why is this poverty-stricken American one of the most recommended authors for the average person looking to create wealth of his or her own?

In short, Wallace Wattles is touted as a forefather of wealth creation because he rose above that poverty and a lifetime’s worth of failure to die rich and successful.

Wattles started on his own path to wealth creation by first studying the principles of successful financial wealth. His study was based more in universal theory than in any one financial school. For a number of years Wattles delved deeply into the theories of the universe that governed all life matters, specifically, the monistic theory of the universe (the Hinud-based theory which provides the basis for the greatest of philosophies of the world, including the works of Descartes, Spinoza, Emerson, Heigel, Leibnitz, Schopenhauer, and many others).

After formulating a Science for Getting Rich which Wattles based in this theory (in coordination with others), Wattles applied his Science for Getting Rich to his own life; Ultimately, when Wattles died at the age of 51, he was a rich man, and a well respected author of more than five self-empowerment classics, plus short manuscripts and a novel. In essence, what Wattles did was prove his own wealth creation theory by applying it to his own life.

What Was Wattles Wealth Creation Message?

Wallace’s theory, which he often referred to as “The New Thought Principles”, is very well detailed in his most famous wealth creation text, The Science of Getting Rich. It is a wealth of knowledge that is somewhat done an injustice in summary; but if there were a phrase to summarize Wattles’ message, it would be “positive thinking”.

Wallace Wattles’ writings were very much based in the belief that all a man or woman needs to succeed in life, to create wealth and live prosperously is within reach to all who develop the proper mindset to succeed financially. Those who devote themselves to success in wealth creation and commit to thinking and acting in a “Certain Way” will find their way to success. This is achieved through a combination of putting forth the needed effort, visualizing success, and believing in both one’s own ability and right to be financially successful to make money.

If the basis of Wattles’ teachings seems simplistic, it is because to an extent it is. Of course, Wattles lends much more to the discussion in his books; he lays out the path to forming the right state of mind, and works to dismiss all of the common excuses for why a person cannot get rich. Wattles explains, scientifically, why there is no limit to wealth and why no single person is limited by anything in his or her upbringing or current circumstance.

Though not overly well-known to the general public, Wallace Wattles is very well known in circles of wealth creation. This enduring author is famous for his wide-reaching approach to wealth creation, and his message is timeless, applicable to any type of wealth creation; Wattles is a fitting must-read for every novice and seasoned pursuer of financial freedom.



How Do You Describe The Wealth Creation Mindset?

Filed Under (Motivational) by swapquot on 04-07-2009

Sean Rasmussen asked:


A successful mindset is the cornerstone of success in wealth creation. Without the right wealth creation mindset, negativity and lack of confidence pervade and eventually overtake the individual. A lack of the right mindset is one of the key reasons why people fail at wealth creation or fail to even try.

What Is The Right Wealth Creation Mindset?

In simple terms, the right wealth creation mindset is one of success. But the effective mindset for financial wealth achievement is more complex than that, and in fact there are many facets to the successful wealth creation mindset. What’s more, every individual has a different need for improving the many facets of the wealth creation mindset. Developing and achieving the best state of mind to create wealth is a constant and ongoing effort, but one that literally pays dividends in the end for those who are able to achieve it.

A successful financial state of mind means different things to different people, much in the same way that the definition of success is different for different people. What is most beneficial for those embarking on a journey towards financial wealth is to identify clearly what wealth means to them, and what they recognize as their most beneficial mindset for wealth creation. The right mindset for making money can be any of the following, and most successfully in combination:

Success-success has been dubbed as the one catch-all term because it is what is recognized as the pinnacle of financial wealth. What success means to you is personal, but whatever it is, you need to name it, make it your goal, and keep it in the forefront of your wealth creating mind throughout.

Determination-success cannot be met without facing adversity. No person on this earth has ever made money without first overcoming some obstacles. The key is to be determined in the mindset you have created for yourself in terms of financial wealth and muddle through the down times so that you can enjoy the windfall.

Commitment-in many ways, society today is lacking commitment. We have easy escape clauses and we use them freely. This is a mindset that has to be changed in order to enjoy financial success. The successful wealth creation candidate sets their goal for success, commits everything to the effort, and remains determined to succeed.

Accomplishment-accomplishment is not only a term reserved for the long-run, end goal of financial success; accomplishment is also a term that applies to the interim,to that time when you are working towards creating wealth, working through temporary defeats, and enjoying small successes that get you closer to that end goal.

Positive,in magnets, opposites attract. You are not that kind of magnet. In wealth creation, like ‘charges’ attract. Your positive thinking creates more positive thoughts, more ingenuity, more ideas; your positive thoughts attract other positive thoughts and allow you to see possibilities set forth by other people. On the other hand, negative thoughts will get you none of these things, and will only breed more negativity in your mind set. Ultimately, pervasive negativity will spell your financial wealth-creating failure, and you’ll only (at best) enjoy the status quo.

Confidence-wealth creation can include some risk, and that can be scary for some people. Remaining confident in your determination to build wealth, and confident in your ability to manage your wealth creation strategies, finding the support you need, is what will get you through the more uncomfortable aspects of creating wealth.

These words are just a handful in the English language that might be used to describe the right mindset for creating wealth. You yourself may prefer to embrace other terms that are more manageable and meaningful to you. However you define financial success, you’ll surely never reach it if you don’t take some time to develop a positive, workable wealth creation mindset to govern your money-making moves toward financial freedom.



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